You can check the rest below.
Because black mans cryptonite is the white woman
^^^ MAN’S CRYPTONITE IS PUSSY!!! ^^^ Bottom line… people in general have too many demands and we as people fail too realize that we all carry our fair share of B.S. Life & consequently love is about being happy w/ yourself & finding someone you can share that happiness w/. Don’t ever try to change someone into the person you want them to be… be content w/ yourself.
I refuse to even watch this crap. I am sure Hill Harper came correct but I am tired of hearing about black women and their issues with black men. Enough is enough. Our (black men) public relation machine is by far the worst in the world and we got to ramp it up. Even if that means calling out a lot of bullshit that black women do. Fuck it….everyone has waged war against us…I say we start throwing out bombs of our own.
Let me add to #1 bews….lol
There’s just too much competition out there for black women…let me break it down.
(1)All big cities like NY, ATL, MIA, CHI, LA the women to men ratio is in or around 4:1.
(2)This creates intense competition
(3)Not only do they have to compete within black vs black, they first have to look better than the light skin black woman…lol
(4)You have the latin mamis who they have to now compete aside from the light skinned black women
(5)Lastly, white women are dating anything that looks good, whether black, white or green. Is not like before where they’ll just date a white guy. With this hip hop & sports and now a black president….forget it…all white women are going black. All black everything.
lol so there you have it. Look at tiger woods arsenal, he cheated with all those women, and not 1 was black…lol…not 1. See my point? They could have been given out the pussy for free to tiger and he passed and just paid for a porn star lol…
Black women have it tough, they also need to change their attitudes and come back to earth…a large deal of them are gased…..
to add some more, ask any man, it just feels better to get even rejected by a white women….than a black women…white women are just so much nicer when they indicate that they’re not interested…black women forget it…they act like they’re doing you a favor….smh.
dam Mo aint that the fuckin truth smh…idk me personally i dnt mess wit black women like that anymore. strictly spanish. I wanna see what a white woman is like tho, neva had the chance to be with 1.
Sistas just need to realize they can’t get exactly what they want when they want it. The type of guy most of these women are looking for (status,six figure income, well dressed, mannerable) is being pursued by way badder (and younger) bitches and aint tryin to get tied down.
its bc most black women are bitches and when u give them some money its beyond being one man being able to handle
How funny didn’t Steve Harvey divorce his wife because he was having an affair with Jacque Reid when she was a host on his radio? The blind leading the blind.
Black females are just all into themselves, not all but most of them.
Let me give you an example. Go to a white bar/lounge.. everybody is conversating you can walk up to a group of white people and just start talking. They will treat you like your best friends!
Reverse that to a black bar/lounge/club, you walk up to a black female she’s already rolling her eyes, thinking all you want to do is holla.. And truthfully you’re just trying to start a conversation and mingle. Black girls on the side of the wall staring, same with the men. Leaning on the damn wall
WHITE WOMAN N SPANISH WOMEN JUS HAVE BETTER ATTIYUDES FREE EITH LIGE N DONT LIE WE SEE MORE SEXY WHITE N SPAMISH GHZN BLSCKS…BLACK GIRLS R GOOD HOMEGIRLS BUY I LUV ME SUM BUTTERMILK SKIN LOL REAL TALK…I ONLY DATE OUTSIDE MY RACE BUT ILL SMASHH A BLACK CHIK
Cause they have too many fuckin demends and expectations.
Thank you, all you black men for stating why you wouldn’t touch us with a ten foot pole. All I can say is, I AINT CHECKIN FOR YOU EITHER! This is coming from a college educated, attractive, 26 y/o Jamaican female with a positive attitude.
Be the person you want to attract, and none of you stereotypical dudes are them.
WHY DOES THE WHITE WOMAN HAVE NO PROBLEM FINDING A GOOD BLACK MAN?
BLACK WOMEN ARE BUSY DIKING AND BUYING SEX TOYS TOO FIND A GOOD MAN.
A lot of you are more narrow-minded than the black women you are putting down.
First, let me start by saying, I now reside in the SouthWest, and my lady of the past 3 years is Hispanic/Caucasian and I am Black/Cherokee.
Second, let me reiterate the point that love knows no boundaries, be it color, age, gender (if that’s your thing), etc.
Now, on to my point.
The black women in these so-called “Discussion Panels” are showing a very unprecedented “victim” mentality.
That is to say, what you can’t find in a black man, you rush to complain about it to the world, as if the world is everlastingly concerned with your love life.
Real people, such as myself, have Bills, Mortgage and Dogs to take care of. The last thing I’m concerned with is why a successful black woman cannot find, what she perceives to be, her successful black man.
I do understand the logic behind the discussion: Black women should breed black children to continue on the legacy of the black culture. While this may not be the UNDERLYING reasoning behind the discussion, it certainly is, to me, the only sensible reasoning for discussion thus far.
If not that, then all you have are these women and their victim mentality.
And beyond the victim mentality, you also have the mentality of that which limits you to the confinement of the one race.
We are ALL PEOPLE. And this is for you brothers posting on this subject.
Not one of us born is perfect.
So, when you brothers are on here saying “black women have attitudes, black women are selfish, black women are blah blah blah”, remember that they are no less of the idealism of perfection than YOU are.
Black women, I don’t consider myself successful or perfect. I am just an technical high school educated brother from the midwest, with 2 loving parents, 2 loving sisters, 2 loving dogs and a loving girlfriend, a mortgage, a small business and a mountain of debt that I’m trying to clear up.
When I decided that it was time for me to settle down with someone, I didn’t sit down with a list of things I wanted or didn’t want in a woman, so it isn’t fair for you to sit down with a list of expectations, descriptions, pros-cons, etc for the man you want. Me and my lady fell into our relationship by the good grace of Him. It was what was suppose to happen in my life and I wake up and I am thankful everyday for her and the life we have created together.
Take the man for what he is. My lady was extremely fallable, and so was I. And we still are, but we have worked on the flaws that prevented us from being happy together, and we are working on the ones that are residual (still there).
I refuse to watch these discussion panels, more so when it involves men like Steve Harvey, Hill Harper, or any other black man who participates.
Hill Harper and Steve Harvey may share in the philosophy that black should stay black, but black women, remember, these men have found their partners in life. You need to find yours, whomever it may be.
These black women need to lay off them type gassed discussions and find focusses in life besides being discontented with everything regardless of whether they brought on themselves, i aint buying into that bull shit!! fuck outta here and at #12 errbody can say hw attractive tehy are on this type platform so just keep that info to yourself honey aint nobody looking for ur ass theres nothing to point out..
I’m not even going to watch this mess. I am totally tired of the Black man getting shitted on. The Black man is not the only group of people who cheat, they are not the only group of people that trifling. There are pieces of every group that do just that. I’m tired of being picked out and everything contrary to what is popular being magnified. Leave us alone!
@ # 16, i realize that, i realize i can’t prove anything to you, nor do I need/want to. I know you are not checking for me, I also don’t care, this is a discussion board- I’m aware of the platform.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder regardless. If i consider myself an attractive person, who are you to tell me not to?
I just am over the ridiculous stereotyping many of the commenter’s stated.
We have attitudes
We are gassed
Our expectations are too high
We are bitches
These comments make me sick.
Is the truth…
where do stereotypes come from?? reality. These are not things that people say for the sake of talking or saying…people say these things because they see them in majority of their experiences…and when 19 out of 10 black men are saying the same thing regardless of location, then sister is good for y’all to listen.
I’m Dominican – but I’m a dark skin Dominican (fabolous type lol) and I get confused for African American all the time either that or panamanian..lol but that’s besides the point, I’ve dated all kinds: Black, Hispanic and white, Asian etc…this is just based on my experience..and kid you not, Black women have given me the most issues….is like they feel like I owe them something..or maybe not me but the world. I’m my own man, I don’t depend on any woman, I have a great career and a 2 degrees…I could get at whomever…no worries at all…but if I see you, and want to get to know you and you right off the bat are giving me games and an attitude, then sorry I’m on to the next one…she may be white or hispanic…but you can’t be mad at me either…lol…you had your chance…and that happens all the time…my friends and I even agree on that..we’ve been in social events where we’ve tested it out…where white women and hispanic women are just so much more approachable and not even to date..just like people…black women to date are already difficult…
IF A MAN IS GOING TO CHEAT NO MATTER WHAT RACE THEY ARE..THEY GONNA CHEAT…ALOT OF BLACK MEN THESE DAYS TO BUSY TRYNA BE A RAPPER OR BE A GANG BANGER..I MEAN THASS ALL I SEE….YOUNG BLACK MEN IN OUR GENERATION ARE HEADED FOR THE NOTHIN BUT THE WORSE….AND THE WHITE MAN HAS BRAINWASHED THEM B/C THEY ARE VERY COLOR STRUCK…ITS SAD….SMH…WHY DOES THE COLOR OF A WOMAN’S SKIN MATTER?..AS LONG AS SHE’S PRETTY…
STAY, you are part of black men’s perception of the majority of black women. Instead of coming here and making your point like the successful, attractive, college educated black woman you claim to be, you came hear with attitude. You can’t kill ignorance with more ignorance.
Just like women are fed up, so are black men. Successful black women, or black women period, have this thing in their heads where they can’t settle for less than their ridiculous standards. It’s alright to want a man who’s financially stable. But when did financially stable become champagne sipping and balling and Gucci and Louis? A financially stable man is someone who can support himself and his family. That’s it. Also, the pool of men these women are going for is ridiculously small. Ladies, you ARE NEVER, i mean NEVER going to find a man with everything you’re looking for. Because none of us, people i mean, are perfect. So looking for the perfect man is a lost cause.
A major part of this issue comes from women thinking they know what they are talking about already. When I have questions on women, I ask my mother, my sister, or another close female friend for advice. When women have questions about men, they go talk TO THEIR GIRLFRIENDS? What kind of ass backwards logic is that? Then when men DO TELL YOU what’s on their mind, you dismiss it as them being insensitive or just wrong or twist the shit up to make them look bad. You’re so busy trying to take charge and prove you’re right, you don’t pay attention to us GIVING YOU THE ANSWER!
And all types of men cheat! I REPEAT, EVERY RACE OF MAN CHEATS! IT’S NOT JUST US NEGRAS! So stop victimizing yourselves black women. You are not a special case.
Smoking aces- you are right, i did have an attitude. Kinda hyped up after watching the debate and immediatly reading the “black women are bitches” comments. for that, Im wrong. Im not going to apoligize for coming on a little hyped up, because, thats my emotion- and I was just being real. But, i hardly think my response was unjust.
“STAY, you are part of black men’s perception of the majority of black women. Instead of coming here and making your point like the successful, attractive, college educated black woman you claim to be, you came hear with attitude. You can’t kill ignorance with more ignorance.”
“black women to date are already difficult…”
Its all just generalizations to me.
I can only speak for myself- Im friendly as can be, happy-go-lucky even. I live in NYC and can honestly say I smile at just about every attractive man around, if only for the possibility of entertaining conversation- sometimes it works, sometimes it doesnt.
The thing is, I do listen to these stereotypes… And react accordingly. Black women have attitude, rollin their eyes, after the man with money- That is not me, or the women i associate with.
We all weaved out– I dont wear one, and take pride in caring for my natural hair.
We are the first ones to put a brother down– Im not trying to at all, I simply believe that if he isnt checking for me, Im not checking for him either. It’s ok. God has a plan for me…
I have yet to date outside of my race, but am extreamly open to it.
I do appreciate your mature response, without the “get the f outta heres” or what not.
I realize that this isnt exactly the perfect forum to have this type of debate, I love the site for its variety, but its also a site that puts bootys and asses on display on the regular. Thats fine too, but thats also not me… Just happened to stop by the site today.
Cheri is correct, all I really want is someone to take care of my home and have sex with me while I bring home the bacon. When I changed from that mode of operation by suggesting she go back to work after the first child and not try to have a second child with me instead of me giving her the money she needed she up and left got married collecting child support. So she is not single. People out there have games for each other. Brothers do not want to settle for one when there are so many fine examples for there is just too little time. Dang it is a bitch being without a car.
Black men are the only mean who set out not to date within their race
It makes them feel superior
They date another race and defend it by putting blacks chick down when you should just say you with the chick you with cause you like her not cuz blacks chicks is this and that
Niggaz act prejudice on purpose
If you dont discriminate you wouldnt put any race down you would just fuck with bad chicks regardless of race…
Cosign #15 about Black people should breed black children to continue on the legacy of the black culture.
Niggaz is out here tryna make white babies and further down the line black folks will be a dying breed
But thats ok to some nigga cuz they dont like black folks anyway…..
Oh and stop all the black women attitude shit cause latin broad got attitude too
And to some of yall niggaz STOP the ignorace and raise your kids
Not all niggaz but most niggaz is out being sperm donors instead of being fathers.
A nigga will quit his job just so he wont have to pay child support
Black women outnumber black men by 1.8 mil
added to that 2 mil brothers in prison,
a couple hundred thousand are gay,
and then u have ones like Reggie bush and Russel simmons who prefers non black…
Shit all u got left are playas like me and married men like will smith..
So that leave a blk woman with two options… A. Be a home wrecker and B. Get your heartbroke lol…
And then most men of every race dont wanna settle down and thats all most women want to do
Regardless of race
Because they discriminate, instead of regulating every shade of the ass.
decent dialog so far, but as a ybf and native NY’er, i purposely attended an HBCU to really experience my bruhs as they really are. Educated, talented, gifted, black men. I am happy I chose that route and not St. Johns like I almost did. The video erks me and I am a woman! I have dated pr’s, blacks , and whites, and I have to say that ALL have flaws. I think Black Men are the ones that the light is shone on more when it comes to degredation of us as BW. its unfortunate, bc reading some of the comments only further perpetuates this as true. Im happy with my black fiance, and we have these convos often. I say for all of you “I only date bunnies, latin mami’s etc…” watch basketball wives. Talk to Antoine Walker. When his check dried up, latin mami evelyn dipped on his behind…quick!, or tiger woods, Im just saying that you can’t buy into the hype, just like Sherri & Jacque cant be so damn demanding.
who gives a f*ck what black men think. taste the rainbow ladies….this is why i married a white man!
Hi everyone, i been reading what everyone is saying and its making me laugh, like genuinly, i didnt watch the video because these topics can only bring problems but i went straight to the commments to see what everyone thinks.
I just wanted to say i am 22 years old and black, and my girl is 21 and shes black.
I was born in Portugal and she was born here in the UK but her parents are jamaican, mine are african. We are engaged, and we live happily together, we met when we were 19 at university.
OK I SAY THAT TO SAY, IT DOESNT MATTER WHAT COLOUR YOU ARE, IT SHOULD BE THAT FEELING YOUR HEART GIVES WHEN YOU LIKE SOMEONE NO MATTER WHAT YOU JUST WANNA BE WITH THEM THAT COUNTS. I DONT THINK ITS BAD TO GO BY STEREOTYPES. WHY?
BECAUSE BEFORE I MET MY GIRL, I WASNT HAPPY AND I ALWAYS SAID I WILL CALL EVERY SINGLE GIRL A BITCH, AND SEE WHICH ONE IS THE ONE THAT COMES OUT AND PROVES ME WRONG, BECAUSE MOST GET MAD AND JUST TO IT ANYWAY I CAN ONLY WIN IF SHE DOES PROVE ME WRONG, AND IF DOESNT, I WAS PREPARED ANYWAY.
SO TO ALL GIRLS ITS SIMPLE ALL STEREOTYPES HAVE SOME TRUTH TO THEM, ITS UP TO YOU TO SHOW THAT YOUR DIFFERENT, IF SOMEONE SAYS YOUR A HOE ETC ETC, PROVE THEM WRONG WHEN THE GUY FINDS OUT HOPEFULLY ITS NOT TOO LATE HE WILL APOLIGISE AND FIGHT FOR YOU LIKE I FIGHT AND FOUGHT TO BE WITH MY FIANCE.
THANKS FOR READING
this is just wordly generic banter that leads to nothing @ the end of the day and just boils down to peoples personal preference and current circumstances. The best way forward would be to confide in God about your situation and pray for insight regarding finding love and a soul m8 because anything less is bound to end in hurt and resentment. I still aint got a girl, got laid n im broke but im happy with situation because im committed to my relationship God. i still do want a companion (black, white or whatever), kids and success but if she aint God fearing then thes no point. i think black women (successful or not) need to apply the same logic in their search for a soul mate and stop looking for answers in debates because its all meaningless and doesnt amount to anything but only just goes to show how insecure they are. (u dont c women of other races asking the same questions and having debates about it).
Im Sorry but black people are so ignorant with so much attitude that they cant even stand them selfs. you could blam it on the government even each other with guys vs womens.. but deep down to it they can stand them selfs cause of their ignorants and they dont take shit from no one cause of there attitude.. tell me how a family is gonna work… ok you guys are tough its cool.. but youz are soo tough that deep down its sad what monsters are becoming.. lets be real and lets change this problem..
all these ignorant comments are a lot more upsetting than the video. but i swear i could see this seminar being a joke in an episode of the Boondocks. with the women cheering in the audience, Steve Harvey making jokes, and that one man talking about the “denzel principle”
I don’t like the fact that many of us black men are putting our own women down and putting white women on a pedestal. We probably had some of our problems and issues with black women, but it doesn’t mean that EVERY one of our BLACK sisters are like that. NO, NO, NO.
I was raised by strong black women that treated their husbands like kings and were the cornerstone of the family. I don’t like putting our own women down like this because that is like putting your mother, sister, niece, daughter, etc… down.
I have no problem dating women from different races, but at the end of the day I try to stick to my own people. We all as men want our women to emulate our mothers and I love black women more. They have been there for and with us since day one, they are strong, caring, nurturing, loving, intelligent, and most importantly BEAUTIFUL.
Men aren’t attracted to success, women are. Men for the most part are attracted to physically attractive women. Thats why you don’t hear “why cant a successful black man find a black women” because he can find any bitch he wants. Doesnt even matter what he looks like. Why you think Rick Ross get groupies.
Its a big world and there are a lot of beautiful women of all colors. I’m a black man but I don’t feel obligated to date ONLY black women. That is not a knock against black women; I’m just saying the world is too big and there are more women out there besides black women. A good women can come from any race. I challenge these successful black women to go out and diversify their bonds and see what else is out there.
MBS = Mad Black-women Syndrome
This is by far one of the dumbest topics ever discussed. Why is this such an issue with Black women? It’s amazing that these so-called sucessful women have the time to sit around and talk about things like this. The same for the men on that panel as well.
Here’s an idea… Instead of sitting around on panels talking that “we have ours and are successful, how come the black man can’t do what we’ve done” bull$hit.. how about just finding any man, no matter the color.. and be happy? The problem is, many sistas thrive on drama…they love to complain about things….
So, if they did actually do that, then they would have nothing else to complain about. And of course, they can’t have that.. lol. So they’d rather stay single and complain about “why can’t brothers do what we’ve done”?.. instead of just finding someone, anyone that fits them, and leaving it alone…
Contrary to popular opinion, brothers are not “hung up” on white or latino women.. Men period, want to be with women who are as drama free as possible. Only dudes who are bitch-made themselves like being with women who are drama queens.
Also, most men in general will hit any woman that looks good to them, regardless of their race…
Does anyone notice how when brothers marry or date outside their race, they’re always accused of self-hatred, or not loving their mothers? But if a black women dates or marries outside her race, all you hear are statistics about the lack of eligible black men, blah blah blah…. amazing how it means one thing for brothers, and something totally different for the sistas…
I live in NYC aswell and I can relate to the “other races are more approachable” comments. Other races are usually friendly, nice, etc with positivity. I don’t see that as much with black females. But then again I think what I’m talking about actually has to do with bad parenting. I think parenting needs to be discussed more than anything because that sht connects with black women and relationship issues, black men ridiculous prison statistics, disease etc etc. But on the other hand we’re all grown and have to accept responsibilty for ourselves. And it’s common sense anyway, who wants to approach/stick around with someone with a negative attitude male or female?
Okay, I went straight to the comments and ignored the videos on this, because this “single black female not finding a good black man” banter to me is BS. First, Steve Harvey and the media is exposing Blacks in general; black females for being victims with standard issues and black men for being good-for-nothings without a college degree and money. My question is, why are they treating this like it’s an epidemic plague that’s going to affect black people?
I’m a single, 21 year old college student that happens to be black. In my everyday life, I’ve seen the “stereotypical” black woman, but I see the stereotypical white girl, Asian girl, Latin girl…they exist in this world. But I also see girls of all color, shades, and size that don’t even scratch the surface of the stereotypes based on their ethnicity. People need to get over color and recognize that there’s too many people in the world to put in a certain mold. I would like a black woman in my life, because I find black women attractive just as any other woman of a different ethnicity attractive based on who they are inside and out. I’ve met white girls with high standards, I’ve met Asian women who just go after money and prominence, and I’ve met Latin girls that have attitude. Pssh, I had a white girlfriend with an attitude worst than the stereotypical black chick.
So these guys who judge black women off stereotypes alone need to get over it. Judging black women like that is a cop-out.
Once again…black woman love to stay on the offensive instead of accepting any responsibilities for their actions. The fact is that black woman like the rest of the world have been conditioned to treat black men like shit. I don’t blame you but damn its time to step up and improve or stop bitching about us going elsewhere to be appreciated.
I think this happen a lot but not all the time. Women just have more self esteem and they see black men as negative.
fuck dese women and move on to the next one.
the most successful people in the world are black people.
god made blacks frist and blacks made all others 2.
black women should luv black men no matter what they do or dont do.
black women should make that money, cook dat food, take care of them kids, and give that man the time of is life.
“if black women dont do this then they dont luv god”