The job that Patton Oswalt has done coping with the loss of his wife Michelle McNamara has been admirable, at least publicly. It’s so easy to slip into a hole after the loss of a loved one, compounded by the presence of job obligations and family in the mix. We’ve been privy to how Oswalt and his daughter have dealt with the loss before, but we get a better picture in his interview with Conan on Monday night. It’s the best kind too because Oswalt is very funny, as is expected, but he also provides some of the best describers for grief and coping with loss that you’ll find online. All nestled in one late-night interview that features jokes about scaring the bejesus out of Peter Dinklage and his trip to Arby’s following the Emmys. People should call for help if they find you at an Arby’s.