Nicole Arbour’s Ex-Boyfriend Made A Video Alleging Domestic Abuse And She Has Several Responses

By now, you’re familiar with Nicole Arbour, the viral YouTube “comedienne” behind “Dear Fat People,” “Dear Black People,” and “Abortion is Wrong.” That’s her public persona, but she has a private life, too. About a year ago, Arbour began to date Matthew Santoro, who is also a viral YouTube star with more than 5 million followers. He’s a comedian, too, but Santoro made a very serious video last September. This was a private video, which somehow got set to public (a few days ago), and people are freaking out. Santoro decided to leave the video up for the message it contained.

In this video, Santoro discusses an ex-girlfriend who physically and emotionally abused him. He claims this woman hit him and controlled his whole life though a pattern of jealous, violent behavior. Folks put the timeline together — plus all of Santoro’s public mentions of dating Arbour — everyone pretty much assumed he was talking about Arbour. The video features an emotional, sobbing Santoro telling his story. He says, “Domestic violence knows no gender … It’s sad that we live in a society where people think we’re supposed to be quiet about these things, and it’s wrong.”

It’s heavy stuff, and Arbour did not respond in the most sensitive way. She posted a comment on YouTube: “Heard that little b*tch I dumped months ago is still using me to get attention on his vlog channel. Ew.”

Arbour stuck with her assertion that she did the dumping, and maybe Santoro should, like, move on with life because it’s “awesome.”

She also accused Santoro of making everything up and urged him to get help.

There’s a lot more to unpack, but first, Santoro’s good friend, Rob Dyke, visited with Todd Shapiro on SiriusXM. Dyke detailed how his pal became a completely different person while dating Arbour, who was allegedly a vindictive, aggressive, and controlling partner. Dyke didn’t observe the violent incidents that Santoro describes, but he believes his friend.

Arbour finally responded with more than a few snippy tweets. She made her own video, in which she denies everything and appears startlingly emotional. The video begins with a lovey-dovey clip that allegedly took place a week before the breakup. Arbour strongly denies that abuse took place, and she says, Santoro is trying to “hurt me, my career that’s growing quickly, and what he’s doing is in poor taste. And this is coming from me, so when it’s in poor taste, it’s in poor taste.” She apologizes to domestic violence victims on behalf of anyone who fabricates a false story of abuse. Arbour finishes by telling YouTube that everything they see isn’t real.

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