Dating should be fun. But, most people view it as the equivalent of a job interview for a potential relationship that might work you too hard and not give you enough in return. When everyday life floods your Twitter, Facebook, Tumblr, and other social media with screengrabs of awkward OKCupid and Tinder interactions and profiles, a less than optimistic attitude might feel justified. This leads people to feed into negative dating culture and just spam messages like “wanna f*ck?” hoping there is a hit-it-and-quit-it soulmate on the receiving end.
A successful date isn’t necessarily the result of serendipity or matching star signs (Although, it can be, so watch out for Scorpios… sorry to put you on blast, Scorpios); like most other endeavors, you can prepare. You don’t have to build a vision board or buy The Secret and try to use the “law of attraction.” You don’t have to get a dating coach (but you might want to because fun, duh). Start simple and make wise choices. Steer clear of the following behaviors on your next first date and you will at least minimize negative consequences while maybe enhancing your chances for a second, a third, a fourth, and… you know how numbers work.