With her naked pursuit of good times, good sex, and a good career, no one has ever rivaled Samantha Jones (Kim Cattrall) in terms of tenacity. The Sex And The City bombshell always knew how to get what she wanted, and always managed to look fabulous doing it. Sure, she may have ruffled a few feathers in “polite society,” but she somehow always managed to have the last laugh. She didn’t have time for other people’s bulls*t, but she was always ready for an “I Don’t Have A Baby” shower.
There is a lot that you can learn from Samantha if you’re looking to live a fabulous life, but the biggest takeaway is to live your life unapologetically. Never let the haters get in the way of what you want, and eventually, they’ll realize that you’re a star. If you need a little extra inspiration, let the wisdom gained from these Samantha Sex And The City (which you can stream on HBO Now) moments help guide your path.
“Hello, my name is fabulous.”
If you’re looking to make an impression, let people know right off the bat what you’re all about. Samantha always wore her ambition on her sleeve, never pretending to be someone that she’s not. If anyone or anything ever made her feel less than fabulous, that was her time to split. While you may not have the confidence or seemingly endless disposable income to live a life of such abandon, you can at least bring some Samantha realness on a smaller scale.
“Sweetheart, you can’t go listening to every f*cking little voice that runs through your head. You’ll go nuts.”
One of the main things that can stand in the way of your goals is your own insecurities. You’ll drive yourself crazy. However, if you’re Samantha Jones, you’ll give those self-doubts the middle finger, pour yourself another martini, and seduce the next guy that catches your eye.
The next time you hear those voices whispering that you’re going to fail, silence them with your unquenchable swagger.
“Always look like you know where you’re going, even if you don’t.”
Even Samantha has occasional moments of imposter syndrome, but she’s also a major proponent of “fake it ’til you make it.” Samantha is a tastemaker, not a follower, even if she’s striking out relatively blind. She’s not going to let four-inch Manolo Blahniks slow her down, so why should she wait for someone to point her in the traditional direction of life? That is far, far too boring.
“Listen to me. The right guy is an illusion. Start living your lives.”
The pursuit of true love is a major part of Sex and the City, but Samantha was always there to keep things real for romantics like Carrie and Charlotte. Sure, finding your “soulmate” would be nice, but sitting around waiting for The One is just going to leave you frustrated. Go out. Live your life. If you find your forever, lucky you. If not, at least you had a killer party along the way.
“If I worried what every bitch in New York was saying about me, I’d never leave the house.”
It’s easy to let people who want to see you fail influence your journey. As much as you’d like to think that you’re immune to other people’s bulls*t, it can be hard to merely brush off petty comments. However, there isn’t a better time to channel your inner Samantha. Put on your hottest dress, order yourself a cocktail, and live your best life. After a while, it will feel as natural as breathing.
“I am not the type of woman who sits home all day waiting for a man!”
There were so many red flags in Samantha’s relationship to Richard (James Remar), but one of the major deal breakers was how he tried to force her to be something that she’s not. Instead of allowing her to be her brash and brassy self, Richard reduced her to a self-doubting, emotional mess, and that is just not Samantha, which she eventually realized.
As you’re navigating your path to success, don’t be afraid to call out those make you feel less-than. You don’t need those bastards holding you back.
“I will not be judged by you or society. I will wear whatever, and blow whomever I want, as long as I can breathe and kneel.”
The only creed that Samantha ascribes to is that Botox works every time and that she is the master of her own destiny. It is certainly a hard-won lesson, but the art of not giving a f*ck is one that we could all learn to master. Societal expectations be damned! Live your life how you see fit. Isn’t that what we all want anyway?