The nice thing about a good, old-fashioned controversy is that it can take issues that were hidden below the surface and help them bubble up a bit. That’s what’s happened with the movie Me Before You, which has upset disability-advocacy groups and started a conversation about the way people with disabilities are depicted in movies. As someone with a disability myself (a spinal-cord injury at the C4 vertebrae), the whole thing is actually kind of nice — kind of — because it gives me a timely, newsworthy opportunity to point out some things in the situation that I think are worth discussing, and that rarely get brought up without something like this giving it a turbo booster. So let’s do that for a few minutes. Let’s talk about wheelchair stuff.
First, a primer, with necessary spoilers: Me Before You, based on a book of the same name, tells the story of Louisa Taylor (Emilia Clarke). Louisa is a young woman who is hired to be a caregiver for Will Traynor (Sam Claflin), a former playboy and banker from a wealthy family who suffered a spinal cord injury in a motorcycle accident, leaving him paralyzed. She tries to show him that life is still worth living, and she eventually falls in love with him, but Will is so despondent over the idea of living in a wheelchair that he chooses to end his life with the help of an organization that specializes in assisted suicide.
Or, at least, that’s what 10 minutes of Googling tells me the plot of the movie is. I have not seen it. I doubt I ever will. It’s not that I’m protesting it, necessarily, although there are a number of disability-advocacy groups that are, for reasons I agree with in their broad strokes. It’s not that I’m even all that mad about it. Is it the best possible depiction of a person with a disability? Well, no. Not by a lot. But it’s not a totally outlandish premise, either. Studies have shown that people with spinal-cord injuries commit suicide at a rate three times higher than the rest of the population. There’s a sliver of defensible fact propping the whole thing up, and as someone who has always tried to grant creators wide latitude to tell their stories, it would make me a bit of a hypocrite to yell and scream about it now just because this time it’s about my thing. My main reason for not wanting to see it is that it will probably be a huge bummer.
When I say it will be a bummer, I mean it two ways, micro and macro. First, at the risk of being glib about a serious topic, I mean that I — a relatively happy thousandaire disabled person who is not dating anyone from the hit HBO drama Game of Thrones — do not particularly want to spend a sunny Saturday afternoon in June watching a movie about a depressed millionaire with the same injury as me who decides to end his life over the objections of his girlfriend, Daenerys Targaryen. That does not seem like fun to me. But the bigger bummer, and the reason this kind of movie is upsetting to so many people, is that it is one of the only stories Hollywood ever tells about people with disabilities.
Let me explain: There are, more or less, with a few exceptions sprinkled in, three kinds of people with disabilities that get put into movies: 1) People who are super depressed about having a disability (Will in Me Before You); 2) People who overcome their disability to achieve a goal, often depicted toward the end of the movie in slow motion as dramatic music swells (as you’ve seen in countless tearjerkers that end up earning their stars Oscar nominations); and 3) billionaires and/or geniuses and/or people with superhuman abilities (Charles Xavier from X-Men). What doesn’t get put into movies as often, and what I’d love to start seeing more of, is, like, a regular person with a disability.
And admittedly, that’s a tricky piece of business. Most actions and dramas focus on exceptional people, by definition, and the best and easiest way to make a disabled person stand out is to make them tortured or inspirational, or by giving them enough other gifts that it kind of cancels out their disability in the audience’s mind. I understand all of that.
(Quick note: There’s a big part of me that wants to see Charles Xavier land his fancy science plane outside a villain’s compound while searching for some formula or ooze that he needs to reverse or enhance mutant powers for whatever reason he figured out late in Act II, only to realize there are eight or nine steps to get to the front door of the facility and there is no ramp in sight, because super villains are rarely concerned about complying with the Americans with Disabilities Act when they’re building their compounds. I will laugh and laugh and laugh in the theater if this happens, and then I will turn around and see how many able-bodied people’s laughter I can stop mid-chuckle by pretending to be mad about it. A little treat for me!)