Jane Fonda just scored her 11th Golden Globe nomination, a supporting actress nod for her brief role in Paolo Sorrentino's “Youth.” It turns out the two-time Academy Award winner has plenty of thoughts about her own youth, a subject she's addressed in a number of forms — most notably her autobiography “My Life.”
Now she's directly speaking to her younger self on the CBS News program “Note to Self.” In this clip, Fonda reads a heartbreaking but incisive epistle to herself. Below, the letter is transcribed.
Dear Jane, What you don”t realize now is that your life will be life a big circle, passing through many dark periods when you will see no future for yourself, when you won”t know who you are and you won”t feel anyone could ever love you.
Right now, you want to be a boy, preferably a Native American boy, living in the wilderness and passing through it silently, invisibly, with stealth.
You will be sexually molested at seven, just as your mother was as a child. When you are 12, your mother will commit suicide and the bravery and spunk of your earlier years will seem to fall by the wayside. You”ll come to feel that you have to be perfect if you want to be loved – meaning thin and pretty and appealing and certainly not angry. You”ll have to be a “good girl” to be loved. Living in-authentically like this will lead you to various addictions that will dominate much of your life and energy.
Your parents are both self-involved, so you will grow up not really knowing what love feels like. What will come to pass is that, through a lot of hard work you will realize that your parents did the best they could. You will learn to remember them with compassion and love and forgiveness and become your own person.
I wish I could explain to you that the painful things that will make your life challenging and get you in trouble are the things that will ultimately make you strong and compassionate.