love is a place
& through this place of
(with brightness of peace)
Jake Snow was a seasoned traveler. He’d been all over the world. He knew how to travel smartly and safely. He knew not to just give a bunch of money and his passport to a strange man to get a last minute visa to Vietnam. At least, not if he didn’t want to get his passport stolen. But Jake also wasn’t thinking smartly, safely, or rationally. He was thinking that he’d let the love of his life walk out the door, and he needed to see her again. So, he took the risk.
“I literally was going crazy for love,” he says. “I just thought I had to try it.”
He had only known Marie Fe for a few days, just two travelers crossing paths on an island in Thailand, but he got the sense, as she headed to Vietnam and he to Cambodia, that if he didn’t risk it all to find her again he’d be making the biggest mistake of his life. So, as Marie arrived at her hotel in Vietnam, she looked up to see Jake, standing across the street, holding all his bags, deliriously in love with a woman he barely knew.
It was a leap of faith, one that could have ended up disastrously, but instead, was the start of the biggest adventure Snow or Fe had ever taken. And 19 months later, they continue to leap — together now, holding hands as they jump into the unknown.
After the hotel meetup, the duo spent the next month traveling around Vietnam. When that swing came to an end, they didn’t know how they could stay together. They both had lives, responsibilities. Marie was from Germany and just traveling for a couple more weeks before starting business school in Barcelona. Jake was born in Australia, and was supposed to head back to play football. How could they make it work?
They decided that they’d take a couple months apart. They felt certain they could handle being away from each other for that long.
“We were gonna meet up after his football season so like… what was that five to six weeks?” Marie says.
“Yeah, we kept saying five to eight weeks,” Jake says. “If we could just get through five to eight weeks of being apart, then we would be good.”
After seven days away, Jake couldn’t stand it anymore.
“I told my coach I couldn’t play because I was in love and I had to go see a girl,” he says with a laugh. “He laughed at me. Everybody on my team did. Australian football is a really rough sport and here I was telling my coach I couldn’t play because I had to go and see about a girl.”
Jake burned through his life savings, flying back and forth to Europe to visit Marie. As hard as they tried, they couldn’t seem to continue any part of their lives without being together. It was like they’d been navigating through the dark, and a light bulb had been turned on. They couldn’t imagine, now knowing what it was like to be together, trying to find their way through alone. So they decided not to risk it all once again… for love.
Since then, Jake and Marie have built a life based on their love of each other and adventure. It hasn’t always been easy, and it’s required some pretty significant risks, but, they tell Uproxx, anyone can make the same choices and find the same happiness. Here’s their wisdom for adventurous couples: