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If you’ve ever wondered whether people who call their sexual partners “daddy” whilst in the throes of passion are actually fantasizing about doing the dirty with their biological or adoptive paternal figure (trying to keep this as technical as possible, folks), then here’s the news you’ve been waiting for: Women (and probably men, for that matter) aren’t out here dreaming of doing their parents (no matter what Freud says). In fact, when people call each other ‘daddy’ during sex, it generally has nothing to do with familial relations at all.
This startling (and somewhat soothing) revelation comes to us via Broadly, which has done the hard work and asked a sex therapist why it is exactly that people can’t just stick with the normal “honey, baby, sugar” while engaging in coitus and gotta get into pet names that suggest the possibility of incest.
“I’ve heard from a fair amount of men who were turned off by it, and were worried that it was an indicator of ‘daddy issues,'” says sex therapist Vanessa Marin. “Yes, ‘daddy’ can mean ‘father,’ but we also use the word to indicate when someone is the boss, in charge, a protector, or doing a good job. That’s usually the meaning women are going for in the bedroom. It’s a bit of a 70s porn cliche. I’ve never run across a woman who called her partner ‘daddy’ because she genuinely liked fantasizing that he was her father.”
Now that’s some hard hitting journalism! One therapist’s answers from her clients SURELY solves this great mystery for all time.
This is a question with good intentions, but do gay partners use a lot of the same terms of endearment that heteros do? Is there also a whole new vernacular about it?
Are you asking if gay couples use the term “daddy”? ‘Cause LOL…
So your kinda bi-curious about the situation?
Im asking for a friend, duh
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What about when they call you Zeus?
Daddy like
I read the couples counselors name as “Margaret Squirts”.
Does this include Zaddy too?
So why do men sometimes call their female partners “daddy”? Asking for a friend
This is all well and good, but can someone please tell me why I keep getting turned on by late night talk show cooking segments??
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I don’t even know why you bothered with this. You should have just asked Dr. Chauntelle … oh wait.
Yeah whatever happened to her?
UPROXXED!
Maybe she made fun of Bud Light too.
She is missed.
It is an objective fact its about daddy issues.
As someone in a D/s relationship I would like to say that Sir (also capitalized as is pretty much any position on the dominant side of the slash) in no way means a lack of affection in the relationship. My Sir is an amazing kind and loving man. He cherishes me as much as any DD does his little.
The difference is not affection. It is the dynamic.
Daddy or Mommy with their little girl or boy
Dom or Domme with their sub or slave
Master or Mistress with their slave or sub
or any other role each identifies as.
Each role brings it’s own dynamic to the relationship and the relationship’s dynamic will develop based on what each person brings to it. These relationships can all go on as long term loving relationships.